Getting Back in the Saddle …
is turning out a lot harder than I initially thought it would be!

When initially deciding I wanted to have a little break, relax, enjoy and look at all my options, I thought I could just resume blogging on the date I had set before going off.
Little did I know that my time off would have such a huge impact, it feels like my mind has gone through a complete reset, and as a result, many habits have been reset as well.
I was one of those people who would check email, comments and stats just too many times a day, but boy, did I break through that pattern!
After posting my announcement of being back, I switched off my computer not to turn it on again until today and it is only now that it really feels ok to go back again, adding things-to-do to my day.
I was still on this high, I just can’t express how great is was to have my mom and friend over for a short week, especially since it made me see just how important family bonds are, something that is easy to forget after 10 years living on my own in a foreign country.
A few months ago I was reading about the 20/80 rule, that says most people spend 80% of their time on things that aren’t productive, productive being described as things that really work for you, whether that be business wise, family wise etc.
The initial break I set for myself, was to make a clean cut and evaluate just were my time went, because I can tell you right now, that even though it felt I was really working hard, I can see now it just wasn’t leading me anywhere.
Another thing “going on in my life†has gotten me think about something else, I am about to land my first huge commission (well over $1000) on just one sale, without using any tricks, without selling a crappy product and it isn’t online either. All of a sudden all my initial hang-ups on making money through commissions have disappeared and made me realize it is possible staying close to my own values and making money in the process.
Quite awesome to see this all happening after such a long time of struggling, however I do feel there is another way to go at it and build up a steady income stream without having to toss my values out the door.
When I first started this blog, I never meant for it to become a blog about making money, I only wanted a place to vent, test out methods I was using and writing about the progress and effects, but little by little the focus is going into another direction and more and more this is becoming a place dear to me.
The problem with having something become dear to me, is that I tend to spend too much time on it, wanting to nurture it, make it grow and become special, and again I started to fall into the 20/80 percent theory, and have my vision become blurry.
I have started a new project this week though and really need to stay on track this time, giving it all I have and make sure I don’t shortcut myself by becoming sidetracked again.
So after thinking a lot about it, one of the best ways to stay on track probably is becoming accountable for it, so I will start blogging on my progress after I have finished the initial set-up process which should be over the course of next week.
If you have been reading my lasts posts and comments, you can already see what I am starting to set up, kind of is a no-brainer so I won’t say too muchabout it at this point in time. I do hope however to be able to report some exciting updates pretty soon so stay tuned!
Tagged with: Change • clean breaks • different attitude • new projects
Filed under: Blogging • Commitment • Future Projects • Goals
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Awesome job on the commission!
Looking forward to seeing what you will be unveiling.
You know I was just having the realization myself that I spend way too much time fretting over things and not enough time being productive. So bad that I have actually had to start setting reminders on my calender to get off the computer for a while and do something.
I am glad you had such a good time on your vacation and got to really enjoy your time with your Mom.
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Mirjam Reply:
April 21st, 2008 at 6:16 pm
thanks man
should not cheer too soon but it is 99% sure and it comes in so handy
I do the same thing, fretting over stuff really not worth fretting over, and not spending enough time and focussing on the things that really matter.
Making a clean start right now though and with the extra cash coming in, I am finally going to invest in some programs that will save a lot of time linking, plus a new PC …. darn, that is probably the hardest thing, seeing that I have always been a Mac girl :S
As you might have noticed, I have started reading and watching a lot of posts on bloggerunleashed.com, and one thing I really got from that is that many times we just tend to think and overthink things too much, and by doing so, don´t have time left to take action. That message really kicked in big time, and I sure was guilty of overthinking things too much.
See you around soon, I am off to do some reading outside on my terrace (man I should really post some pictures of my “spring office”
:D )
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Funtastic, congratz on your commision. Thousand is a big deal!
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Mirjam Reply:
April 23rd, 2008 at 9:12 am
thanks, I am kind of thrilled about it right now
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This shows us, again, that for most people it is hard to think outside the box and realize there are more opportunities available, most of which just need to be grabbed.
Congrats!
~Marcus
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Mirjam Reply:
April 23rd, 2008 at 9:15 am
Hi Marcus
you are right, sometimes we get so set in our ways it becomes harder to see further ahead and explore. I think it was a really good decision to have a break and step back for a bit, evaluate and just take time to not think about anything other than the present, enjoy and just relax!
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Gotta stay with it or you’ll lose your edge… just think of us poor news bloggers who have to post at least 3-6 articles a day… lest you become irrelevant.
James’s last blog post..Nora Ephron’s White Men
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Mirjam Reply:
April 23rd, 2008 at 9:19 am
Hey James
I never really thought about “having to post” a certain amount daily, since I feel it is more important to stick with a certain posting shedule and try to provide interesting reads. 3-6 articles a day … pfffff that just seems too much to me, something I would never be able to stick with and I would soon become horrible to deal with in my daily live, not even to mention empty on ideas….
I certainly prefer a few good posts weekly that I enjoy reading rather than being flushed with that many new posts without giving the reader the possibility to keep up with what you are putting out in the blogosphere
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I’m glad things are working out for you. I think sometimes we get bogged down trying to make the mighty buck that we forget what is important. Every thing that happens to us in life makes us into the people we are. I have read your post and your personality or character comes through and it lets me know that you are a good person. Good luck in your ventures.
Ladyhawkcj
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Mirjam Reply:
April 23rd, 2008 at 9:22 am
Hi Carol
thank you for your kind words, I do try to stick close to who I am and where I want to go eventhough at times I wonder off when things don´t run as smoothly as I would like them to. It is so easy to fall in the trap of loosing yourself when looking at high profile succesful bloggers, thinking your own way just isn´t good enough.
Thanks again!
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20/80. Ahh… My biggest problem is procrastination. For example. I meant to be working on some projects, but then I end up reading other people’s blogs and I get hooked leaving little comments.
By the way, congratulations on that commission! Way to go!
Mark at WebDiggin’s last blog post..PPC Affiliate Marketing – Learn from your competiton
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Mirjam Reply:
April 24th, 2008 at 8:23 am
Hi Mark!
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(Nice to finally know who is behind webdiggin
well… isn´t that just another form of 20/80? I mean, it isn´t bad to leave comments, creating backlinks that way … but it can be very time consuming and the “return” on your timeinvestment isn´t very effective.
Especially if more productive actions are pushed to the background and only receive 20% of your attention. I have really cut down on reading other blogs, there are only a few that I read as much as time is allowed, making it less likely as well that I get caught in spending hours reading (and commenting).
First thing in the morning I focus on my main task, get that done and finished with for as much as possible
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